The Work Life Balance

Working outside of the home: it certainly isn't a situation or decision that is unique to our family. I know it can be a hot topic for many and there are many judgments passed by those of both sides of the fence. Working moms that judge those mothers that give up careers to stay at home, and stay at home moms that judge mothers that work and put their children in child care.



I know that before having Jax I was guilty of passing my own judgements. I never use to understand women that were on what I considered the "mommy track." The women that I knew would stay home once they had a child. I was very career oriented and certainly didn't put myself through college and law school to "give it up" once a child came along. Then we got pregnant with Jax and my feelings changed. I honestly don't know if the fact that we waited for so long for Jax contributed to my change of heart or not, but it didn't matter: I knew I wanted to be home with Jax. It just made sense for me, for our family.



Yesterday Jasper called me with a possible job opportunity he had heard about and he wanted to see if I was interested. It sounds like a great job with great pay and in law school I would have described it as a dream job. However, I thought about what it (and the long hours) would mean for our family, for Jax, and I decided (and Jasper agreed) that it wasn't worth it. I have a great set up right now that I feel gives me the best of both worlds. I am always with my little guy, but I get to continue to work on a few cases from home while my mom watches Jax at my house a couple of days a week. It is just perfect.



So while it might be what I used to consider my dream job, my dream has now changed and I am ok with that. I turned in the office with the river view for a new office with this view:

Jax helping me with the laundry

This choice certainly isn't for everyone and I by no means think it is the only way to parent. It just works for us and for right now, my life feels in balance.